I'm so glad you posted this. I have the same issue, but with different things. My ex of 3 years was always the one who could make it all go away and then when I was going through a really hard time he just wasn't there which led to our break up a few months ago. It's hard to learn how to handle these issues on my own. I know I'm making progress I just wish it would be easier. I wish I had advice, but I'm looking for some as well!